Tuesday, January 19, 2010

Kandee Johnson - A Great Friend.



Kandee Johnson - 
(It is stated “innocent until proven guilty” in a court of law, but this really depends on how you look at it. When a crime is committed and you become a suspect, you are treated as if you’re guilty.)..........
It’s not the way things are supposed to be done in America. My good friend, Kandee Johnson, has been accused of ridiculous things.  What bothers me about this is people are making accusations about her that are not true or are stating that she did something wrong, when she didn’t . They are people that hid behind cute, little internet names and make claims about a person who they don’t know. I call them cowards. I have known Kandee for many years and some of these people claim to know her. I would also know these people if they were really knew her. Kandee has a handful of friends that she talks to regularly and I’m proud to be one of them.

About the charges Kandee was staying at my house in LA…she was down here working because there is no work in the town she lives in. I happened to be with her at the time the incident happened. The officer’s report stated that she left her son at home alone for a day or more alone. I know for a fact that her mom was there, watching her son prior to the incident because I heard her talking on the phone with her, discussing who was going to take care of her son. Her mom did leave to head back to LA and Kandee had spoken to her son. He explained that he would be over at the neighbors’ house until her friend could come to pick him up to watch him for the rest of the time she was out of town. In the meantime, her son and his friend decided to light things on fire with hair spray. The police were called out at this time. The officer did not charge her son, but he wanted to direct his action toward the fact that the officer couldn’t figure out where the kid’s parents were. He then started interrogating the 12-year-old boy. In the report, the officer states that the boy was lying about what he had lit on fire. He then went on in his report to say he believes the kid when he said didn’t know the name of his mom’s very close friend’s name. I’m no rocket scientist, but if a sacred 12-year-old boy who knows he’s in trouble tells me he didn’t know who is supposed to be watching him I would think he is lying, to protect himself from getting in more trouble. The officer then asked if he had his mom’s phone number, the son said, “no” and the officer believed him. Once again, rocket science. The officer went through Kandee’s whole house to do this big investigation. What the officer came up with was “borderline unsanitary.” From my understanding, there was dirty dishes in the sink and the kids has left food out on the counter. He did not find any thing like drugs, alcohol, raw sewage, rats and roaches, or anything other thing that would be considered “child endangerment.” With all the fine police work being done he never even called Kandee to talk to her and find out what was really going on. Kandee’s grandparents showed up and took her son with them and notified her of the situation. The office never tried to contact either of the boy’s parents. He wrote a report based on a kid that already admitted to lying to him. Kandee called the officer just moments after she found out what happened. I could hear the officer talking to her. He did not want to listen to her or even let he tell her side of the story. My thought is he was embarrassed because he had been had by a 12 year old boy. The reason I say this is, her son was not charged with anything. He had outwitted a grown man. The sad thing about this is, now, she has to face the court taking her kids away. For what? Being at work and your kid getting into trouble? I remember being at parties in high school when my friend’s parents were out of town. There were underage kids drinking and the police showed up. The house was trashed. Never once did any of the parents face charges like this. The bottom line is, kids misbehave. You have to use some judgment when you charge someone with stuff like this. The sad thing is, there are kids that do need this protection and the people who are in charge of it, can’t even do their job right.

Another thing that bothers me is, people do not ever search for the truth. They just assume someone is guilty. They want to believe it more than the truth. The story got leaked to the press and again, no one contacted Kandee. She tried to contact them and the editor hung up the phone on her. People just don’t want to do their jobs. They just want to point fingers and make accusations. She finally got through and someone took down a short statement. The funny thing is, there is an amazing story here. It’s about a mother who is taking care of three kids, with no financial help from anyone.  She refused to be a victim and worked every waking moment and took care of her kids, which at the same time adds up to 18+ hrs a day. Her life had not been easy but through positive thoughts and hard work, she is on her way to turning things around. Because Kandee has the most amazing fans that love her dearly, they offered to donate money to help her. She set up a PayPal account at their request. She managed to get just enough to pay for the first installment for her attorney. How’s this for a story but the news want to just take the easy way and report the negative even if it is not the truth. Finding the truth takes work. But then again, they are journalists and part of that is to get the whole story. So, do your job. You might enjoy what you find out.

In my opinion, Kandee should be getting an award for her dedication to her kids. I have never seen a more loving mom. One of the things she told me that sticks out in my head is, “I would do anything for my kids. I just want them to be able to have the opportunities that I never did. That is why I’m doing all of this.” She also said, “I will make it. My family has no choice.” That is why Kandee is one of my closest friends. She has the biggest heart and is by far the nicest person I have ever met. I read a comment that said the way she is on the Internet is not how she is in real life. I agree. She is more amazing in real life. Kandee is an inspiration and has given hope to millions through her YouTube, Facebook and Blog posts. Only someone who does not really know her would say some things bad about her. So, yes, Kandee is guilty. She is guilty of being a good mom, friend, and human being.
By Ian Ruhter

145 comments:

Frey said...

Your post touched me. I had noticed recently that Kandee had posted messages on facebook talking about some struggles but I never knew it was this magnitude.

It's really unfair when things like this happen to just amazing people. I can just watch her videos and they inspire me. They make me want to be a better person, to smile more, to not take life so seriously and to enjoy the moment.

I will keep her in my prayers because I believe that everything she does in life and her career is for her family and her kids.

I'm so thankful Kandee has great friends like yourself.

Andrea V. said...

Thank you for posting this. Kandee has been an inspiration to me as well. Ever since I came across her channel, I find myself smiling more and really looking at the brighter things in life instead of always focusing on the negative. She motivates me to accomplish goals I've always viewed impossible to reach.

I hope and pray that she can get through this and that the people who were too lazy to do their jobs gets a good dose of the karma they deserve. I can already tell because of the fact that she has friends like yourself who would post something like this, that she in fact is a good human being. My prayers are with her, her family, and friends.

Unknown said...

It's awesome that she has friends who will come to her defense! As a young mother myself, I understand having to sacrifice for your children and working hard so they might have a more opportunites. I believe the truth speaks through her blog and youtube videos. Kandee is nothing, but an inspiring, encouraging, loving woman..Her love for God bursts through her like rays of sunshine:) Thanks Ian.

Unknown said...

Thank you Ian for posting this. Kandee as you know is one of those rare people who can make you smile and not ask for anything in return.

I few months back I emailed her about one of her post on her blog to thank her for inspiring me. I am trying very hard to be a novelist and I all but given up hope because the dream seemed too big. I lost faith…
That was until she emailed me back (something I never expected) She told me only as beautifully as Kandee can, that my dreams can come true and that people are waiting to be apart of the world I create my novels. Simply because of that email I picked up my first draft of that novel and started to write again and I am enjoying every second of rewriting it.

When I heard what was going on in Kandee's world right now I felt hopeless just wanted to give her a big giant hug, even though I am on the other side of the world ( I know that may sound silly) Glad to know she has someone as wonderful to you for support.
You are a wonderful friend
Love Libby

AmélieC. said...

So beautiful... Kandee is a wonderful person and this is apparent to those who's hearts are true as well. You are a good friend and a kind person, I can see from your words Ian, and people's friends are a reflection of themselves.
I'm so glad she has such loving friends and family...she is one of the most incredibly kind hearted people I have ever seen.

Elena Mayen said...

You're right...Kandee is an amazing person on the internet...and i'm sure she is even more than amazing in person. If only I could meet her in real life! You're so lucky to have her as a friend and she is lucky to also have you as her friend and supporter! Thanks for sharing this story.
My prayers are with her and her family!

monavampire said...

so great that Kandee has got around her people like you.
We're just her fans and she needs real person to cry on its arm.

Greetings!

Anonymous said...

You're a wonderful dear friend, Ian. I have nothing but love and admiration for Kandee♥.

Beba said...

I love, word to word, what you wrote. I am mom, and i know how fast trouble happens with kids. I hope, from the bottom of my heart that Kandee will go out as winner from this unfair situation.

Dalene W said...

This Post really did touch me.... I am a young mother of a 4 yr old and I know I would do anything for him! He is my life and my world!
Kandee is such an amazing woman, and mother and I'm sure a wonderful friend, I don't know her personally but just watching every video of hers makes me smile and feel pretty!
From listening to all her stories from when she was younger and everything she has been through, She is the strongest woman I know, I hope all this passes and everything goes back the way it was... Stay strong Kandee, I know we all are for you!
And for all those ppl out there writing horrible comments..... why don't you find out the truth first before pointing fingers and GET A LIFE!!!!

Unknown said...

Ian, you're such a great friend to Kandee!!
All of this is truly unbelievable. I hope after all is said and done, the media and police who were responsible feel a great sense of idiocy for their mistakes, and hopefully it sends a lesson to all... don't just judge and make decisions based on half-truths or guesses, do your job and find the whole story first. Thanks for posting this!

Anonymous said...

It's refreshing to see that there are actually close friends that do exist still.

josephine said...

Kandee seems like an amazing girl! She doesn't deserve anything like this. She is lucky to have a friend like you and you are lucky to have a friend like her.

"They can't kill your dreams, so they assassinate your character"

Keep dreaming, Kandee!

Amanda S said...

Kandee, I'm so sorry you have to go through something like this. I agree with Ian completely about this situation. As much as we would like to think police officers are doing their best to take care of us and our families sometimes they just want a case and want to be seen as a hero even if there is no villain...keep your head up girl!! you've got so many people who are on your side and care about you and you'll get through this...your in my prayers, lots of love!!

Anonymous said...

Ian, Kandee always mentions good things about you. As you do about her as well. It's very obvious that both of you are great people who admire each other and that's why there is a solid friendship. Kandee has inspired me in so many ways. I, whole-heartedly, believe that she is so unique and so rare. Kandee is truly special, a great person to look up to. I love her very much, and I don't know her in person but her optimism and care and compassion shines through all her posts and videos. I'm keeping her in my prayers. Lovely post Ian.

xoxo

OneLuv said...

Wow, it really is different in America than Canada. I lived (in Canada) next door to a child that did terrible things to other children and really did need a parent around (she really was never EVER home). When he kept getting picked up by police (Youth Criminal Justice Act protects children under 14 here)I called Social Services but they couldn't do anything because "he had a roof over his head". He is now 13 and in jail, I'm not sure why because we moved but it's what I've heard from law enforcement friends.

I stumbled upon Kandee's blog/facebook/you tube when I Was looking for a halloween look and I go to her blog every day and facebook page every day to put a smile on my face. This woman is incredible, her voice just makes you smile and her "skies the limit" attitude gives you the most encouragement no matter what you're faced with. I hate to say it, but it sounds like they are trying to make an example of her:S

She makes my heart smile, and hers may not be smiling right now, but I hope that it will soon. There are children in way more dier circumstances that the "justice" system should be more concerned about. My prayers are with her, her bambinos, family and friends. Much love Kandee!!!!!!!!

Anonymous said...

i commend you for your post. here is the link to all contacts of the Record Courier, one of the online papers that posted the slanderous kandee article (you'd think they'd do a better job finding out the facts). http://www.recordcourier.com/section/contactus

in any case, i think you should forward the text of your post to every single one of those email addresses, from the editor all the way to the photography department. someone is bound to read it and in all honesty, there's a story here and they'd be morons to turn down an opportunity to get a newsworthy story out of kandee, who's pretty big on the internet.

Shannon said...

Thank you, Ian, for writing this post and getting the truth out there!

MissEllolisoss said...

Thank you for posting this, Ian :) This is sooo unfair!! Kandee is soo amazing, and this bullshit is happening to her!!

Kandee has been my inspiration ever since i discovered her channel! <3 Just hearing her talk and see her smile, makes my happy inside! I´m always excited when puts up a new video ;) It´s weird how one person can make your hole day brighter <3<3<3 And all the good blog posts....she really is amzing<3 :D

Hope everything can turn back to normal!!

I´m glad Kandee has a great friend like u, Ian! :)

SLPfootball mom said...

This is just another vivid example where police do not let parents parent. When my children were younger -mind you this is a short 10 years ago - they liked to climb trees; and what little boy doesn't? I was at work and the boys were with a babysitter - I was charged with trespassing because my children were climbing the neighbors trees? What? Kandee is strong and has an incredible spirit. Things will work out and she will be even better than before. I truly believe this. Good luck to you Kandee.

HumansEarthHQ said...

Ian I can only hope that if I were in the same position that I would have someone like you behind me who's got my back. I have been watching Kandee on Youtube and reading her blogs for only a couple of months now and to be honest I don't really use my time like this very often but that girl has thought me more about myself and about life and attitude in the last few months than I knew was possible. I truly hope that the justice system doesn't fail such a wonderful caring mother and person because she really deserves good things. Thanks for your honesty xx

Unknown said...

This is an awesome post. So well written and thought out. I knew the story as well and you did it much justice. I'm so glad you posted this. I hope people do search for the truth. It's so ridiculous how people almost WANT her to be guilty. I loved your point about the high school parties getting busted. No kidding! Parents were never charged for that. Obviously our battle is "not with flesh and blood..." at this point. Something more is going one. We are praying for her. Thanks again for this great post.

s said...

Good for you for writing such an articulate post that CLEARLY shows how Kandee is being victimized! I don't know Kandee personally, but I believed her side from the start, and your post just goes to show how screwy the media and law enforcement can be. Karma is a bitch, and the officer, author of the article, and any other instigators will get theirs in the end....

Anonymous said...

The judicial system is a mess and based on cops and people in positions of power trying to score points with their bosses to better themselves. They have no care for helping people. I've said it before somewhere in Kandees town there will be kids in neglect and it will go un noticed. Kandee is doing everything she can to better herself and her family and it's always people like that who get knocked down. It's the same in the UK good people get treated like crap whilst the criminals get all the help they need!

Alley said...

i hope kandee pulls thru all of this. she has an amazing spirit and has taught me alot. i aspire to have the positive attitude she has and to work for my dreams like she has. i pray that her family makes it thru these awful accusations and she can step out an even stronger person, and mother. the world loves you kandee, and we have your back <3

Tracy Hacker said...

Thank you, Ian, for being there for Kandee!

I was a single mother for many years. I had a lot of trouble with my son's dad when he was a toddler. There was an awful incident where he tried to take my baby from me, even going so far as to hit me, jerk my son from my arms, and then shove me into a car when I tried to leave with him.

Sure, I called the cops. But what did the trooper do when he got there? He yelled at ME! He treated me like some white trash who was just out to start trouble at my ex's apartment. I had to go to court to get my son back. It was horrible...

The worst part is, my son witnessed the whole thing and still remembers what his dad did, even though he was only three at the time. (He's 12 now.)

But my point is, I believe cops can be so jaded to the world they don't believe ANYONE anymore. Though I was in tears and begging him to get my son for me, he showed no mercy and in the meanest, most threatening way possible, he ran me off. He made me leave my baby with the man who'd just hit me right out in the parking lot because he didn't believe me! That was helplessness and fear like nothing I've ever felt before.

I feel so much for Kandee. She will be in my thoughts and prayers. I would love to be able to give her my shoulder through this. But since I can't, I'm truly grateful she has you!

Kandee--stay strong, sweetie. I have faith those charges will be dismissed. Anyone who talks to you for five minutes will have to see that all this is bogus. You'll see. Everything will be okay.

My love and support,
Tracy S.

Hannamint said...

you said what we were all thinking about all of this. I donated, and would gladly donate again too. Not just to help her out of a tough spot, but to shove a massive finger up at the 'justice' system...

she deserves the best so she can prove to these numb skulls that she's innocent.

I really enjoyed reading this, i'm glad there is someone level headed out there who can see things for what they truly are.

Ancilla Indigna said...

Ian, you hit the nail on the head: people nowadays don't want the truth, especially when it takes effort and it's not hurting someone's reputation. Detraction, gossip, and most especially --- slander, these are malicious actions, but they are the 'norm' in an unraveling society. Children at any age are no longer protected, and in this case, it's the media lacking ethics and a power-hungry cop lacking humility. I seriously believe that children need a two-parent home, but what does a woman do when that's not an option? When there is not that strong father-figure, they are all the more bound to misbehave. And then they see an authority figure (like a cop) not do the right thing for the sake of his image... well, I hope the kids learn to be grateful for their mother's plight and stop taking advantage of her struggle.

My prayers are with Kandee and her children, and I place them all under the protection of the Blessed Mother, Mirror of Justice. She always comes through for her children (as she does for me).

Also, I pray that Kandee finds a good, solid, stable husband that steps up to the plate as real man.

No worries. We got your back!+
Pax, Ad Jesum per Mariam!

Cyndy said...

As a mother of 3, and a big big fan of Kandee. I just wanted to say that the truth will prevail. She is luck to have a friend like you to set the story straight! Kandee your my hero and inspiration, please don't give up!!

Unknown said...

I dont know Kandee personally but I have followed her YouTube career from the start and she is nothing but a ray of sunshine is a usually gray world :)Such an inspiration to everyone!

Anonymous said...

Hey Ian, Thank You So Much for posting this. Kandee is so Inspiring to me and her love for makeup and everything she does on here is amazing. She has taught me to be a better person. It hurts me to think that they are trying to charge her with things that are not true..I know they are not true and i have only been watching her on youtube for about a year now..I so agree with everything you wrote..
Please give Kandee a HUGE HUG from me..please,please, please...and Thank You
From a Friend, Kristie.

katie said...

a- freakin -men

kandee is the best person in the entire world<3

ian ruhter photography said...

I Love Kandee's Fans... They you are the best!!!! Repost this to get the word out!!!!! Thanks Ian

Billie Jean said...

thank you for posting this from what ive seen from watyching her videos for the past 10 monthes or so is kandee is a sweetheart who cares about everyone even her fans which she has never met. which makes me how amazing she must be in real life and to her kids if shes so sweet to me a complete stranger shes never met. life is often unfair but everything evens out in the end and good people do not finish last they are the most needed people today in our screwed up world.

freescotsman said...

OH MY! I totally understand what she is going through! I had a very similar thing happen to me with my son at the same age. Police the whole 9 yards. I went to court and my son told the truth and the whole thing was thrown out! But in the mean time it sucks! Poor Kandee!! She is in my thoughts and prayers. I hate cops like that and they are out there. My fiance is a retired NH State trooper and even he agrees that the cop didn't for one use common sense and that he is on a power trip! Unfortunately it gives all cops a bad wrap! The Innocent until proven guilty is a laugh in our great country, and I blame a lot of that on the media. I get so angry with the media who reports every incident as if someone has been tried and sentence and then slip in the word "alleged".. Give me a break.. I'm with you and Kandee, and screw the jerks who posted crap. They are just jealous of her!!!
Much Love and prays and support!!! xoxox~ Gina

Anonymous said...

What an amazing post to write for Kandee, such solid, passionate support must mean the world when you're going through what Kandee is.
I've seen Kandee's videos and I can only imagine that she has probably inspired thousands of people out there to make some positive change in their life (she inspired me big time) and then made thousands and thousands more smile and laugh. That is an amazing gift to have. I hope when this is over, she will still hold that sunshine in her heart.

Lucie said...

Ian, you are clearly an amazing friend. I have to speak up because some people have suggested that you send this to the media. PLEASE DO NOT DO THIS, I BEG YOU. If you want to help Kandee, please take this down and talk to her lawyer. I could not be more serious. If you are going to make any kind of public statement it needs to be vetted by a professional, otherwise you could hurt Kandee more than you're helping.

Kandee Johnson said...

Thank you so much Ian...and thank you so much everyone....I love you all more than I can say...and you have know idea the impact your words are having on my heart!

And I wish I could give each one of you the biggest hug...
bigger than big love to each one of your precious hearts...your friend, kandee

Miss Petty Things said...

KANDEE JOHNSON SUPPORTERS...SPREAD THE LOVE!!
http://kandeethemakeupartist.blogspot.com/
http://www.petitionspot.com/petitions/kandeejohnsonrocks/

Brimaca said...

My husband was recently arrested under false charges. If I could tell you about them, you'd be flabbergasted. It's insane. He's a good, law-abiding, amazing man. It's been so hard. Sometimes the law and government does not work the way it's supposed to.

I think of Kandee and her situation every day as think of my own situation and just pray for the truth to come out. I firmly believe everything happens for a reason and one day both of our families will know why.

Unknown said...

https://www.aclu-sc.org/intake_requests/add

Perhaps the ACLU can help. I have sent off a letter already. let's all do the same asking them to help. There are enough of us to get their attention and this is definitely a case for women's rights. Successful women have always, throughout history, been met by people - usually those in power - who think they need to be put in their "place". Kandee is an example of a woman who has made a happy life for herself & her children when every supposed fact said it was impossible. Being denied a public defender & disclosure to the legal documents of her own case seem to me to be illegal actions on the part of those who are responsible for enforcing the law. Along with a borderline illegal search of her home & an illegal interrogation of a minor. Those of us who can't help with money, let's help with letters. We can afford to give a few minutes of time to send one off.

ian ruhter photography said...

Lucie,
I think if her fans did it would be better because I'm a fan of third party recognition. If more people get involved then the truth has to be heard. I you like the post repost send it out to the media that is the power of the inter net.We have the power now!

Miss Petty Things said...

What a wonderful Article...thanks for sharing!

. said...

OMG! I didn't know that Kandee was in so much trouble. :'(

I hope that she win this battle.
I believe in her, she's my idol.

Go go Kandee, a giant kiss to you, here from Portugal.

Unknown said...

Thank you Ian. That is the truth. Im so happy both of you have real friends.
This world people needs more of that, people like Kandee, true friendship and justice for all, and love.

Neena said...

You know, these cops are falsely pushing Kandee, who obviously is doing her best given her situation. Why can't they work harder to find all the Garridos that are out there?

Ms. W said...

I am single mom. I know what it's like to be wrongly accused. Kandee is such a delight even though I don't really know her, like you do. What a blessing it must be for her to have a solid friend, like you, during the rough times. She's going to be fine. Everything happens for a reason and ALL things work for the good...so keep your head up and keep supporting your gal!!

Shortylegsbeauty said...

This really brought tears to my eyes... I do not know Kandee, but from what Ive seen and what Ive heard she seems to be an amazing woman and I hope with all my heart that things will sort out for her..

I am happy that she has friends like you..
give her my love, even tho she doesnt know me..
I just a little girl in Finland that sends all my love to her and her family..

xoxo

Rachel Kay said...

I completely agree with you that Kandee should get an award for every single thing that she has done! She is the most amazing person I have ever gotten the chance to know, and for people to say and do things like this to her is just plain sad. On the other hand, God is always taking care of her and knows what is best. These people that are saying such things will most likely regret it in the future. Kandee has inspired me in so many ways possible and I know for a fact that she has truly inspired so many others out there! I will be keeping her in my prayers.

Unknown said...

Ian, You're 100 percent right, I personally don't know Kandee, but the stuff they're charging her with is absolute Ludacris, I too have been to parties with underage kids drinking and smoking and fighting with each other,and charges were never pressed against anybody, Like i said the stuff they're charging Kandee with is absolute crap,from what I've seen on Youtube, and the stuff on Kandees blog, the only thing shes guilty of is being a great and loving and inspirational person, People need to get off Kandees back, THESE CHARGES ARE CRAP!!!

Unknown said...

KANDEE IS INNOCENT,AND AWESOME!!!!

Unknown said...

I want/hope Kandee sees how much support she has. Reading from one comment to another, what amazes me most is the way tables have turned. Reading her blogs, and yours, there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. There is a glass half full. There is hope. And most importantly, this person believes we can make it through our trials. She reminds us that we are not alone. Some one, some where is praying for us. Now the ball is in our court. We, as a loving "Kandee Kommunity" Need to show her that she isn't alone. Offer her words of hope and strength. She has offered all of herself. And it is our turn to give back. Dear Kandee... I hope this message reaches you. You have my love, prayers, strength, and a good piece of bubblegum. :)

Kelley Miller said...

going to post the link to this on twitter...it's important to get this out....i encourage anyone else reading this to do the same...

"blessed people bless people, hurt people hurt people"....

love and compassion are so rare these days....its so nice to see it in action....Kandee is one blessed woman....

Trey said...

Sorry Ian (Ian who takes her to the amusement park - without her kid - and films her running?) I don't buy it. KJ said she couldn't talk to us per her attorney, but then in court said she couldn't afford an attorney. There were several other discrepancies in her own blog.

I agree with innocent until proven guilty, but I learned of these things from Kandee, not the press.

Anonymous said...

I posted a comment a while back on Kandee's video about the Enabled Project. The comment said I thought you seemed like such a gentle soul. You have just proved me right. This heartfelt blog for Kandee filled with love and support has made me feel so happy for her that she has someone like you in her life. The people who have posted hateful comments are in a very tiny minority compared to her supporters. Kandee has the most loyal and supportive subscribers on YT and no-one will convince us she is not a loving and caring Mom. As for the so-called reporters, I think a more accurate job title for them would be "HACKS". <3 to Kandee and you.

Unknown said...

Amazing post.
Kandee is so special and she is so blessed to have a friend like you!

ian ruhter photography said...

Trey,
Like I said! They are people that hid behind cute, little internet names and make claims about a person who they don’t know. I call them cowards.

Anonymous said...

Who are you calling a coward?

Unknown said...
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christine.evans279 said...

Thank you so much for posting this Ian, maybe someone will read it and change their false views about Kandee. She has always told us about 'her awesome friend Ian' and you truly are a great friend. Your post brought tears to my eyes and makes me wish that I had someone as great as you to lean on in a time of sorrow.
Keep up the good work; you're and amazing photographer too!

Unknown said...

Trey,

Perhaps you should read more critically. There are no discrepancies. She could not afford an attorney initially. then with some help she was able to get one. Familiarize yourself with the facts & the details before you decide to participate in the discussion. Otherwise, you just come off as not knowing what you're talking about, which in this case is exactly how you look.

Miss Carolina said...

I love kandee, I've followed her videos and blog for a few weeks already and by just looking at her, you can tell how great she is. It's good that she has so many friends like you to support her =)

heather said...

Geez, I am like crying over here with all the loving words.. I don't know Kandee in person but she has touched my heart in so many ways via my little computer screen....and to have a friend like you, Ian, she is a lucky girl. People always look for the bad and try to ruin others when they are doing good. Its such a sad thing..

Anyway you guys are awesome and I Heart you both..

CarmenSays said...

pfft..trey..what a jackarse.

Kandee will WIN THIS!!

Anonymous said...

This is an amazing friend writing about an amazing person. I truly wish Kandee all the best and I'm glad she has great friends and tons of fans who absolutely adore her and only want the best for her. Thank you for writing this!

tryingtobuyincalifornia said...

We all are innocent until proven guilty...that said the police in LA may seem to be overreacting because they along with so many officials are afraid of the consequences of not doing so. Protective service cases have been in the media from coast to coast and you often hear people ranting about why aren't the authorities doing anything. So the lesson for all of us is to realize that each case should be judged on its own merit. Also, in most California jurisdictions protective services strives to keep children and or parents/relatives together. It may be because her son is alleged to being doing something with "fire" that they are looking for a juvenile placement. I think if this is the case then child protective services should honestly explain what role the child's behavior plays into this, if any. The other concern is that usually officials will ask the youngster if he was being supervised. I'm wondering if they pursued with the neighbor if in fact the children were there prior to the incident. As far as checking his home, an attorney can advise her to explore if there were any signs of "neglect". Child endangerment is not always synonymous with "neglect". I think there are other issues here. Once the hearing ensues and her legal person asks the right questions, I think the courts will be able to see the whole event beyond blame and fingerpointing. My advice to Kandee is to seek counseling with her son about any issues he's having in adolescense as I suspect her son could be difficult to handle at times by adults and authorities. Also, playing with fire in anyway is so dangerous. If this is the case the authorities will probably have a difficult time with placement as most detention facilities do not want children playing with fire. So right now what needs to happen is for everyone and all of us to stop pointing fingers and wish for Kandee and her son to achieve an honest and open relationship and if need be for counseling to be presented as an option. It is difficult for the best of us to supervise children at his age. I suspect he was nervous with the authorities and told them anything to get the attention from himself. Usually the authorities will interview all involved and corroborate the story before making any recommendations. I am wishing both Kandee and her son the best and hoping they can get help in communicating with one another. Kandee seems like a solid, determined and dedicated young mother and I think if the family is given any resources they need and it is presented in a non threatening way, I think they could remain together....If for any reason her son is removed(I hope not) then Kandee needs to go into therapy with him so she can understand any prevailing issues(if any).
Thank you for being her friend; because these allegations can be very unsettling for anyone; we often get so embroiled with "anger" we can't see the larger issues. I'm wishing the best for Kandee and her son. And you are a great friend--she is lucky to have you; because I've found if you can have just one good solid friend in life you have everything.

Unknown said...

Absolutely beautiful and touching. We love and support you Kandee.

KR Dorne said...

I adore Kandee. She has taught the world how to be beautiful in their own skin and how to project that beauty out to others. What upsets me is the legal system taking advantage of the good people. When Kandee said they would not give her a public defender I knew that would happen with the Juvenile System. It is not the same as Criminal Courts. I know this as a foster mother to 2 beautiful children. I am glad there are people who love her and are able to send her enough to help pay for an attorney.

I know that in my heart of hearts, this will be over and she will reign on top. She is a great person who I think the world of. She is in my thoughts and my prayers.

Unknown said...

Ian,
I wish I had friends like you and Kandee. Both of you are amazing not only in your talents, but the people you are. The way you two share the beauty this world has can be seen in photos, videos, blogs but most of all your actions. Thank you for posting this and spreading the truth; all of the Kandee family supports her!

Anonymous said...

What a wonderful friend and a wonderful post. I agree whole-hartedly with everything said. I know that Kandee will make it through this with friends like you by her side.

Christy {SparklesandSpinach} said...

This whole thing just makes me sick =( It really stinks that a person like Kandee, who seems like such a kind and caring woman, mom, friend etc has to go through something this awful. It's just not fair!

Kristen said...

Thank you for posting this, Ian, I can imagine Kandee is going through a troubling time through all this prosecution and it's comforting to hear the whole story from you. From what I know of her she is a sweet and caring person. The only thing that troubles me is where is the father in all of this?? Doesn't she live in Tahoe to stay close to the father? Why isn't he then responsible for ALL of her children because she is staying in the area for their children? I obviously am an outsider and have no right to point fingers, but I believe her ex-husband should show his gratitude to her staying local to him by assisting with "babysitting" her eldest teenage son. And, you're right, at 12 yrs old we know right from wrong and how to act responsibly when at home alone, but the state doesn't want to hear that. 18 yrs old is a black and white line, unless you are being prosecuted for murder.

The Daily Rant said...

All anyone has to to is read Kandee's blog (both of them) to know how she feels about life, her work, her kids, her family, etc.

And if you have seen any of her videos - like the Thanksgiving one where she's in the kitchen with her Dad, or the one where she buys that gift for the kids that she puts together in her living room (blow up house? can't remember), or the one where she does her little Christmas decoration tour - you will not only see that her home is IMMACULATE and kept neat and beautiful, but that she doesn't live like a person who leaves dirty dishes in the sink and her kids alone without someone to look after them.

It sounded, from what Kandee wrote, like the neighbor had something against her and instead of going over and seeing if her son needed anything, she decided to call the police to get Kandee in trouble. Real nice.

I did some research and found out the court she's appearing in, the judge she's appearing before and the date she'll be there. As a truck driver, who travels the entire country on a regular basis, if I can be there (and I often go through that area), I will show up and sit in that courtroom to support her.

I've even considered contacting the judge to make him aware of exactly where he can see pictures of her home and read abotu her life - it would be nice if he could see Kandee like we all do.

Yes, people can misrepresent themselves online, but it would take a whole lot of time and effort for Kandee to be lying and filming "fake" videos just to make herself look good. You can tell when a person is genuine - it's a feeling, an instinct, something you just KNOW. Kandee is the kind of person I feel that about.

I'm glad she has so many supporters. Perhaps we should put together some sort of support petition to sign and send to that judge? Just a thought...

Kandee is lucky to have a friend like you and so many people who care about her - even if they don't "know" her face to face!

All the best,
Salena Lettera
www.salenalettera.com

Natasha Marie said...

Kandee rocks <3
Ian rocks <3

I'm glad she has a GREAT FRIEND like you! I pray everything goes well for her.

She is crazy in love & will do anything for her kids, her blogs && photos are speechless when they involve her kids <3

Sophie Loaphie said...

Kandee is the first person on my list o people I want to meet. She is so full of love! & I could just tell that through her words and videos! I can't imagine knowing her in person! My thoughts are with her and she is SO very lucky to have someone like you in her life as i'm sure you feel the same way.

Peace and Love,
Sophie <3

cyntharella said...

thanks ian, i've been a fan of kandees on youtube and facebook and her blog for awhile now and its really comforting to see she has friends like you outside of the internet community. she makes me smile each and every day, and i can't imagine anything bad happening to someone who is so caring, inspirational and optimistic. and the love she has for her kids radiates through her. and although i've never met her, i can tell she loves them and would never harm them. thanks for blogging about everything going on with her now, with enough prayers and positivity being sent out there, she'll make it through this.

Liza said...

Kandee is so lucky to have such an amazing and supportive friend. My heart hurts for her and the troubles she faces now and I know they will pass, but I know how difficult they must be to go through.

Unfortunately there are people who love misery and cannot put their trust into anyone and always try to stomp out sunshine with their gloom and doom, but I just pray that she doesn't let it close to her heart and bring her down.

Good on you and good on Kandee for being such beautiful people. I wish the best for both of you. I have total faith she will make it through this just fine and I'm giving her all my positive thoughts!

Diane said...

That is an amazing post! I am happy to see that people are standing out for Kandee, because us, her fans, might not be so credible!

Hope she's have the chance to prove the truth and all of this to be over!

Have a nice day

kiss

Unknown said...

At least she has people in her life like you that will support her. She's such a positive person I have no doubt she will be vindicated in all this. She's just the sweetest person, it's mind-boggling how this could have happened to her.

I think you maybe need to be her attorney!

chantal said...

Kandee has many friends all over the world. I'm French and I'm following her because I love the way she is. She's a true inspiration and her thoughts are allways positive whatever happens to her. I hope she will be discharged of these silly accusations. I'm a mother and I know how adolescents can be hard to manage.
Thank you Ian for that message.

Unknown said...

What is happening to Kandee is completely insane! She strikes me as a wonderful and caring woman. This police officer needs to pull his head out of his rear and get with it! I mean, I was babysitting for money by the time I was 10, so leaving her son over night with various people watching over him is NOT that big a deal!

Gemzii-04 said...

Kandee is such a great person it's horrible she's being charged with this when you can tell just by watching her videos on youtube she is an amazing person!!! I Hope everything works out for her she's a great inspiration to everyone :) xx

Unknown said...

I'm so glad you've written this post, cos Kandee have done so much for me, given my spirit back of doing what I love and to believe in myself.

I'll keep her in prayers every day, cos she or any other mother who goes through this don't deserves this. To lose your child or children is the most painful thing in the world.

Katrina said...

I'm still in shock over this whole thing. Your post nailed everything important and I hope Kandee-haters and lovers alike read this, it really was written beautifully

Lula Flor said...

We love Kandee, and now you for being such a good friend!

earth said...

this is brilliantly written. you and kandee are so lucky to have each other, i'm happy to know she has someone to count on who is so caring!! this is so touching. i wish i could donate more to her! :(

Anonymous said...

I love Kandee! she has been such an inspiration to me and i can't stand the fact that someone would claim that she did this, when they didnt know the whole story... I will be praying for her.

Unknown said...

kandee has really been a bright ray of light in my world... it makes me sad that people can be so cruel with no reason... I hope everything will work out for kandee and her kid... and thank god that nobody got hurt

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Anonymous said...

I do not know Kandee, but I have read her blogs and I watch her tutorials. Kandee is a happy soul. She inspires creativity, individuality, and self esteem. I have noticed how important her children are to her, and recently visited Adventures in Kandeeland. Which is basically a blog about her three loveies. It really touches my heart how big her heart is and all the amazing things she does for her kids that bring her happiness.
Thank you for writing this and speaking the truth.

San said...

You are right and I'm glad that you set her record straight with this post.

A 12 year old boy who knows he did something wrong and is getting into trouble is going to lie. That's normal and human. There is something seriously wrong with this cop that he doesn't know this, as if he wasn't a kid. And don't get me started on this judge... This will teach kandees son some lesson about the american system and it's not a good one. What he learns now is that the police isn't your friend and that your rights are treaded on with boots. Good lesson for 12 year old. >:-(

I'm glad that Kandee has friends like you, her family and all her fans to get through this. She helped me a lot and I only know her through her blogs and youtube.
Give her a big hug from me, next time you see her.

Giedre said...

The people hate when somebody is happy and making thousands of other people happy. She makes us to change our mind about bad life, about bad things, that can really deeply hurt you. Still, she manages everything. I'm amazed how she works, looks after the kids (those cuties are all dressed in an amazing style!)and still makes us happy, by uploading her videos and making blogs.
Since I found her, basically, the routine of my evening and morning is making tea and checking if she added new videos and blogs.
People, just look at the mirror and put yourself into her situation, imagine how you would feel. Sleepless nights and horrible thoughts.. I'm disgusted of such people. Look what you are doing to this amazing creature??? STOP AND THINK.
I'm soooo crazy happy Kandee has friends like you, Ian.

Yours, Giedre, Kandee. (gianthug)

Momoko Plush Tattooed Mom | Beauty and craft! said...

Kandee is the sweetest woman i've ever seen on youtube! *_*
OMG i fell in love with her from the first time i saw a make up video from her!
I also become a fan of her blog and stuffs like that and i was surprised about the way she loves her kids! *_* i always said to myself: "i wanna be a mother like her one day"
she's funny, and she would do anything to give a better life to her kis!
kandee i'm with you!I know you're a good person!!

love
Roberta

Anonymous said...

I'm still in shock with this whole thing!
It's just out of this world to me how she could be charged over something like this. All it takes to realize how much she loves her kids it's to watch her videos....her eyes just light up everytime she talks about them!

She goes through a lot to support her little ones, I mean she is just a woman, a mother working a lot to provide things for her kids, and them being in this situation it must heart breaking to her!!

I watch all her videos, read all her posts and it's just seem impossible to me that she is pretending all the time, that actually she is a bad mom and a bad person. I'm pretty sure that what you see is what you get;)

I wish I could hug her, and tell her everything is gonna be all right!

I'm really glad that she has friends like you to support her throughout this whole thing!!

I'm sending tons of love and trust in this comment!

Hugs for you and kandee!

Anonymous said...

Those pics are AWESOME!!! I love the way you added the bubbles!

Isa said...

People are like vultures... It has aways been that way, since men were hanged in public...

It's the same here. Kandee is the one who's been hanged now, and unfortunately for nothing more than a misunderstood.

I do believe in her, even thou I only know her for her videos and blog... Someone said here that her eyes just light up every time she talks about her kids, and that's the truth.

Thank you Ian, for being a good friend for her and showing your support...

All I can do to give back the love she has passed to me through her videos and such, is this... Leaving a kind comment and by best wishes. I hope everything turns out all right, and I'm praying for it...

Love,
Isa.

Liza said...

I find it so amusing that there are people who keep up with her blog, facebook or twitter enough to find their way to this post and then bother to leave comments talking about what kind of a bad or shifty character they assume she is and challenging it to someone who obviously knows her much better than they ever will. Now how is that for hilarity?

Dominique@Delightfully Domesticated said...

I am so glad that Kandee has such an awesome friend! Someone needs to defend her publically...thanks for stepping up to the plate. I know I believe that she is innocent and I dont even know her. I just dont see how someone who oozes with so much love and passion could be charged with such "poo". Go Ian! Go Kandee!!

We love you
Dominique

siniann said...

I am really glad that there is persons like you. You are an amazing friend to her!

I hope all the best for the situation and hopefully there could be some attorneys in USA who would take this case pro bono.

by the way, you are amazing photographer as well.

andrukacelmare said...

oh takes away the energy, noticing the things people say, the hating from human beings that is very present.. binds that appear in our path of existence, realizing they are so real and situations can turn 180 degrees is crucial.. therefor you have been probably aware (I don't know any of you, I'm from very far on this planet , i'm from europe)and you ,Ian , coming and supporting telling so many details of the situations in that day make me strongly appreciate you. this gives so much power knowing friendship and people caring exists.

ian ruhter photography said...

I wanted to thank everyone who has left their amazing comments on here...and I encourage you to keep spreading your positive words!

Yes, I deleted a couple comments on here, this is my blog, and I have the right to approve and delete any negative or untrue comments on my blog.

Please continue to leave your supportive messages here. You guys are great!

Bing said...

Whoa Whoa Whoa.. Hello Miranda WARNING!!! If she is being charged with a crime and cannot afford an attorney, one must be provided for her. It's a Supreme Court Law and expressed in Miranda Warnings, and I quote "You have the right to remain silent. Anything you say can and will be used against you in a court of law. You have the right to an attorney. If you cannot afford an attorney, one will be appointed to you. Do you understand these rights as they have been read to you?"

xxskmxx7 said...

kandee really is amazing and i hate that this injustice had to come upon her :( you really are a great friend for posting this ^_^ STAY STRONG KANDEE!! <3

Jen Carter said...

Problem is, she wasn't arrested, therefor has no Miranda Rights. Only the worst of the criminals, get that privilege. You can be one cent above the poverty level and not qualify for a public defender. "Rights" aren't all they're cracked up to be.

Thanks for posting suck a lovely defense of your beautiful Kandee, Ian. You are just awesome!

Jennifer Coomer said...

Great job Ian! I'm so glad you wrote this for our dear Kandee!

People who are intellectually honest and mature can tell the kind of woman that Kandee is and gain inspiration from her. You can’t fake what Kandee’s got. You just can’t.

Unknown said...

Thankz for posting this... Dont know Kandee personally but her videos, words, and work have inspired me in so many different ways. I could only imagine how much she inspires her children. Hope everything works out for her. My prayers are with her.

Unknown said...

life is life
that is all I can say...
sadly things like this will ALWAYS be going.
I think Kandee is a wonder and talented person
I wish her good luck.
I also wanted to comment that i LOVE your work ...
:D

Andirun said...
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Andirun said...

Dear Internet, I think Kandee is a great person, and you can tell her love for her family. I am glad this was posted because I can finally see the real story. What I don't get is how people can comment on the situation without actually knowing her or being there when it happened. The world seems like one suburban neighborhood. Everyone gossiping and spreading lies, but only a couple people giving a supporting word or a helping hand. Those gossips who have their noses pressed to the window instead of giving assistance should take a page out of Kandee's book... She would help anyone if they asked and she never spreads gossip or hate. She is love, kindness, a blessing and a breath of fresh air. So Internet Gossips and Fear Mongers mind your P's and Q's please, because it hurts my delicate ears to hear hate spread around.

Unknown said...

Kandee is so inspirational and I don't believe what they're charging her with. This soon shall pass. My prayers are with you.

Unknown said...

This was an amazing post...i can not believe that something like this would happen to the sweetest person ever. Kandee has truly changed my life, and this post just proves what a strong hearted, amazing, truly beautiful this women is! so stop all you haters!!

Nicole said...

Im so glad that there is someone like you to help Kandee through this. There's so many of us who really do know the truth!

morales.times.three said...

Thanks for posting this. I think Kandee is truly amazing and she is very lucky to have someone like you in her life.

Kandee and her family are in my prayers. I will also have my congregation pray for her.

I don't know her personally but anyone who watches her videos or reads her blogs can tell she is a great person. You can truly feel her heart through her videos /blogs.

Please let her know she is very much loved and is appreciated.

GYPSY JESS said...

Thank you for posting this. She's an amazing person and I think that she's a kindred spirit...she's lucky to have a friend like you...I'll be praying for her...and the police are rediculous at times! absolutely rediculous!
Jess--thechangepage (youtube)

Lauri The Artist said...

Aww I didn't know this was happening to her =( This is just so horrible to happen to such a nice person, that cop is a dumb dumb! I hope all works out for her.

Thanks for writing this, Kandee has a lot of support. I'll pray for her.

Unknown said...

Thank you for explaining Ian.

Black_widow said...

I really enjoyed reading your post. Kandee seems to be one of the most amazing, loving and inspiring people on this planet. I'm shocked that the system has treated her this way. I myself work for a police department and my boyfriend is a police officer. When I heard about what was happening to Kandee, I told my boyfriend about it. He cannot believe how that officer handled the situation. We deal with people strung out on drugs on a daily basis and have the most disgusting living conditions; it would make you vomit. These people are the ones who need their children taken away to a better home. Kandee seems to adore her children! And her house is always immaculate in her videos.

This officer should have contacted her as soon as the incident occured. It in no way should have been an after thought. And the courts should not have denied her right to an attorney!! My goodness, this whole thing just makes me so mad!! Being part of the system, I know that every last bit of this stinks. It's just so not right.

Anyways, I'm hoping things are better now, though I haven't really heard. Much love to Kandee and her little ones! And love to you too Ian. :D <3

Amanda said...
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Trey said...

She plead guilty.

Blythe said...

Innocent until proven GUILTY you say? well, she plead guilty, that says a lot doesn't it?...No more comments now? Where did everyone go?

Megan Rose said...

I love Kandee. I don't know her, but she makes me feel great all the time. I hope that all of this crap blows over for her! She deserves a pedicure or something equally or more awesome. ha ha.

-megs

Unknown said...

Ugh, this made me sick, Ian. TWO DAYS AGO, I just discovered the world that is Kandee and it makes me sick that she had to go through this . (I pray things are working out). I don't think I've seen more than a few of her videos, but like everyone below me, she brings a genuine smile to my face. Her creativity is completely contagious. I am so inspired to make every day a beautiful one, both inside and out. I'm sorry she had to go through this horrible incident. But she sure is lucky to have friends like you! Send my love to Kandee. Thanks again, Ian :)

Kara said...

I only recently came across Kandee's sites, but it doesn't take long to figure out what a great person she is. I can tell you first hand that (most) police officers are not overly intelligent people. I was one and clearly that officer didn't go about things the right way. I hope Kandee is able to push past this and all of the other crap that is thrown her way.
She's an adorable person and seemingly amazing. I'm glad she has friends that will stick up for her.

Anonymous said...

To the morons posting: She plead guilty to a TRUANCY charge about her son. In exchange for all charges to be dropped, which they WERE.

Anonymous said...

Obviously she has reasons to be investigated or the police wouldn't go as far as they have. There are a lot of fishy things going on with the information surrounding this issue. A lot of the things Kandee says just don't add up like how much money she makes (how could a mother of three who buys organic food, drives a good car and lives in a three bedroom house in a nice part of town afford to care for her children on 25k a year?) and like how she never asks for anything in return from her 'followers' except donations straight to her paypal account or address... I think a lot of people are being had by this wanna be actress and I am not dumb anough to sit here and swallow her bull shit or yours Mr. Ian Ruter.

Anonymous said...

I know what you mean by people not searching for the truth but believing someone is guilty. In my family, things have happened, and everyone seems to look down on my dad & judge him when really out of anything I admire about him, is his big heart. Not many people have that big of heart, it is very rare. But due to things happening & rumors, people love to judge & people just expect me to tell them information & well...hate him. Sometimes I wish people would stop judging people & try to see both stories instead of one. That is definetly one thing I have learnt this year(well last year). Is that there usually is two sides to a story. Another thing is even in Canada where I live, children can be taken away so fast. It can be for the littlest reasons. My little brother was taken away just from the hospital just because my dad told social serives to leave. They showed up asking questions because someone called in, and they actually took the baby. He is back now, but that is wrong. A lot of people judge Kandee & everything but they have no idea how it feels to have a child being taken away & everyone judging you & your family for it.

Holly Mackenzie Cupp said...

Thank you so much for posting this and having Kandee's back. You're a true friend =)

JJ said...

To read all of this is going on with Kandee is breaking my heart. She is an amazing person with the biggest heart. I had stumbled onto Kandee's Youtube videos when I was looking for help to do makeup to change my "frumpy mom" look. And with watching her video's I learned so much more than just how to do makeup and hair. She has touched so many lives and continues to do so. I will pray for her and her family. Ian, you are an amazing friend who knows Kanndee better than I do. You are both very lucky to have each other in your lives.

Take care and God Bless!!

Christina said...

Oh my goodness. Kandee looks like one of the best mom's I've ever seen. Those charges are ridiculous. Victory for Kandee!

Anonymous said...

I just watched the video from Kandee's youtube about the haters and beforehand I had no idea what she was going through! She's really lucky to have a friend like you :)

Muffy's Mutterings said...

I am so sorry she is going through this. Something similar happened to my children and I when they were younger. This policeman had issues at home and took them out on me.
I hope her oldest gets some help to work through this. It will scar him.
What can we do to help? Email me and let me know? I sell handcrafted jewelry. I would be more than happy to donate money for each piece sold towards helping Kandee. Just let me know if this would help?

Anonymous said...

1- 'she took nothing and created a brilliant business...'- i thought she described herself as a 'celebrity makeup artist, 10 years of experience in hollywood'?? that's how she publicizes herself??

2- the money she received from payPal, she never showed proof people asked her to set that button (as opposed to her own idea), she just played the 'poor me' card, then pleaded guilty, blamed her son for everything, and went shopping with people's money the next day. She should have returned every cent of that money if she pleaded guilty! she's a grown woman after all, do people 'hiding behind their computers' have to raise her children and pay her legal fees??

3- her ex-husband takes care of two of the four children. four kids with three different men, i am no mother theresa but for a woman preaching God, chastity, good hearts and love, this is a tad too much I believe. are you humping her, that's why you took the time to blog about her? she never said her ex takes care of her kids until people found papers online..where it says HE has custody, not her. she still milks this card?? single mom?

4-set up Glaminars, asked for so much money, offered no new advice, didn't pay taxes to the IRS, didn't reply to e-mails from people who just wanted their money back, acted like a selfish, self important nobody that she is.

5- receives tons of free gifts every day, never thanks anyone in particular, never donates to anyone. always complains about how her kids don't let her sleep and her 'job' is so hard. she blogs and stays online on facebook-that's her job, basically. I wanna see credentials from Hollywood.

6- she had the nerve to tell other people their problems are unreal yet created a national drama around her legal issues. the judge in her case said, and i quote, her kids need someone to be a parent, not someone who just checks in. she is a disgusting liar, a selfish manipulator who blamed her own 13 year-old for her failure as a parent.

7- what opportunities she missed? her parents look like decent people, her mom is always around helping her. she even afforded going to LONDON with Kandee for her glaminar, who can afford a plane ticket, hotel, restaurants and shopping in London NOW? i myself cannot. Kandee, the poor single mom, could.not only for herself, but for her mother as well. wow. talk about struggling. greedy. greedy bitch.

Tracy S. said...

That last anonymous comment turned my stomach. Talk about hiding behind your computer! Blek... I would like to make a serious suggestion that the original blogger take down this post. Leaving this particular post up online only creates a fertile platform for Kandee bashers who stew in hate and nastiness. People could really stand to find something better to do. The world would be a nicer place.

Ancilla Indigna said...

It's funny how the people who detract against a known personality often seem to be motivated by a great deal of envy. If it weren't so, really, what difference would it make to you how someone else lived, particularly when the person is someone you don't even know first-hand (like a relative or a friend). What's wrong with seeing the best in people and wishing them the best? Kandee can hardly be your enemy, unless you are clinically paranoid and perhaps think she's in your head and/or stalking you and you need psychotropic drugs. In which case, you wouldn't be such an envious, hate-filled nosy-body, just a really sick person in need of some serious help.

That having been said, I do wish Kandee the best. Personally, I don't like to read about other person's personal business, most of all, because much of it probably isn't true or at least, it's never the whole story, is it? It's none of my business, most importantly! I am not effected by the gossip re.: her mainly because I don't agree with her New Age/Oprah-ism philosophies. I like that she really seems that she means everyone well, but I'm a Christian (Catholic) and don't subscribe to that new age thought process (e.g.: "if you think it, it will come to you" ---"Just be yourself --- no matter what that is" even if a person's conscience may be ill-formed). However, a person without the Sacraments of the one, true, holy and apostolic Church cannot be expected to have readily available to them the life of grace that allows one to keep the commandments, no matter how big their heart is naturally. We need SUPERnatural grace of God (which is supplied in the Sacraments --- and we receive according to our disposition, so long as we do not pose an obstacle, which would be an unrepented/unconfessed mortal sin) to be able to live as God commands* (*that's why they are called "Commandments", not, 'The 10 Good Suggestions!'). Perhaps Kandee is in a state of supernatural grace at the moment, but the ordinary means is through the extraordinary Gifts of the Sacraments that order the nature and will of man towards the Will of God. This helps one 'walk the talk'. :)

Also, I don't see anything wrong with a single-mom trying to make a buck to support her children. Who else is going to do it?

Prayers to you and yours, Kandee! I wish (and pray for) you all the best, now and forever.

Anonymous said...

She is not fucken innocent but a stupid scamming bitch and she deserve it! She had it coming!!

muebles said...

Well, I don't actually think this is likely to have effect.

Tracy S. said...

To the poster (Ian Ruhter): Please, please consider taking this post down. It's only providing a breeding ground for mean people to spew hatred. The subject matter is long overwith, and there's really no reason to keep it up anymore. I hate seeing people posting these nasty things who obviously don't really know her or her situation firsthand. They only know her from snippets they've seen online, and that gives them NO RIGHT to judge. Please take it down Mr. Ruhter.

onelove said...

You are such a good friend to do this for her :) I know there are a few evil people out there who claim things that are sooo over the top and not true, and they are scary as they think they are right, when in fact they are jealous, hateful and cowards. If there is anything they need to tell Kandee, why not tell her face to face in a grown up conversation,or solve it in a grown up way, instead they where bashing her online like a 12 year old troll, pathetic, as apparently they have no life.

Love and huggs !
Anna

Anonymous said...

This is a late comment since I hadn't known all that was going on or I myself would have reached out to her having found out we live near to eachother.

Five years ago I moved from the midwest to the state of Nevada and I believe everything you said is true because this is the most evil corrupt government I have ever lived under. Get this...My home was broken into while I was staying with my husband in the hospital (where a good wife should be) by a neighbor who is married to his first cousin (not kidding!) into the men assaulted me....went to court asking for a restraining order and we (my husband and I) were treated as if we were the criminals!

Its okay in Nevada to trespass (we have three visible signs), break into your home and assault your wife along with a grown son who helped him when I was crying trying to explain to them that my husband could die! Yes, the great state of Nevada's judge Bennett denied the restraining order and would not allow us to speak and when he did victimized me all over again. Its okay for men to put their hands on a woman for no reason!! I never even got to the part to tell them I knew they had been in my home! The men perjured themselves lying to the judge in court while crying like a baby, but the judge who is not a bright bulb did not catch it....Or was biased since I heard my neighbor talking in the back when we entered. This is where the judges quarters are located and this neighbor used to work for this judge as his Janitor!

My husband and I were both asked about our grown childrens education and where they lived. Not asking the people who assaulted me about their own educations which happen to be high school drop outs and using the system!

If you are an honest law abiding person or a woman you are not safe or given your constitutional rights here.

I pray that all went well for Kandee. Please give her my best.

Belleza Allure said...

She put up a donation button on her blog so people could help her pay for her attorney needed for this case but she pleaded guilty therefore did not need to pay for an attorney. Why didn't anyone get their money back?

i am the captain of my army said...

Poor Kandee! I know how horrible it feels when you are doing the best you can for your kids with little help, and people are trying to knock you down. People that judge what is none of their business just suck.
I know my brother at that age never knew his own friends last names until he was like 20, and thought to ask.. kids just don;t think about the stuff adults do. My own 11 yr old son probably would have missed that too, and may have lied about knowing my number so he would get out of trouble.. thinking maybe I wouldnt find out if they couldn't call. Where were the other kids parents? And why were they not around to make sure her son was treated with an age appropriate hand. Clearly, the cop was trying to make him understand the seriousness of what he was doing, but I am sure there is some protocol of dealing with a minor.. I would for sure find out what that is..
It is hard raising boys, especially when you have to work, and have no help from the other parent. I am also a hair and makeup artist, and many times I have to leave my son at home for a few hours til I get home so I can go to work. My parents did it. And I'm sure the cop's did too. 12 is an old enough age, I think, to try to loosen your apron strings and give them a little more trust.. Obviously, he has lost some trust from Kandee after this, but we all had that chance to grow up, and we all have done stupid stuff. We all learn from everything that we do. So, I hope with all my might that everything works out well for her.
jenny

JayCoal said...

And to the human wrecker,...
Who the hell are you to ask? Did you send money? Well if not then don't stick your nose where it doesn't belong. Your a completly negative and mean person. Id call you women but women have class and are mature loving caring and in which you are none of these things. For one they gave it to her for her attorney and if you didn't just open your foul mouth you would see that sh used that money. You still have to pay a person for there work. And he did. She didn't say she paid him cause that money helped wt a little of it shes making payments. He told her she didn't have enough money for him and they had to charge her wt something in which they were wrong in the other charge. And all of them soon hopefully will be fired and getting u.employment checks. So I also wonder didn't your mother teach you anything or is she like you id be embarrassed to have you as a daughter we are suppose to support each other mane this a better world and to stand by eachother we are women and only ppl like you do these things cause you are immature, annoying,have a horrible life doesn't love yourself. And remember in school how boys ran after those pretty girls and hurt them cause they liked them? What is it about what your lacking kandee has so much of? Back of cause this was a nice warning. Ian delete this trash.

Anonymous said...

I just recently foundbout about all of this garbage about kandee being a bad person and I haven't believed it for one minute!! It's just so horrible that all of these people are picking on her and accusing her of things they have no evidence for, and it makes me so sad to think that there are people so awful in the world. I just have one thing to say... Thank you. Thank you for being such a loyal friend to kandee and for being one of those wonderful people who are standing up for her.

Anonymous said...

You should be ashamed of yourself in backing up a person friend or not, In asking for money from people for HER buisness, FROM YOUNG INNOCENT GIRLS.. As an attorney, I DO KNOW THE TRUTH and have seen the case files and have received hundreds of emails of young girls that have been duped by this self centered, Immature woman.Of course as her friend im sure you got a cut for you to back up her story... But u have contradicted yourself..YOU ALSO WEREN'T THERE! What grandmother is just going to leave the grandson, Like you stated with out firm plans of his welfare! When kandee's mother knew she was out of town? Just so the other grandparents can come and watch him after the police got involved? It makes NO SENSE! Either kandee's mother is irresponsible, Which would account for the self loathing daughter like Kandee, Or it is in FACT Kandee! She has FOUR kids, She knows the drill.. She also PLEAD GUILTY! If she did NOTHING wrong, she could have went with a public defender with her pennies she claims she only has.. Exp if there was no criminal charges.. And not have asked people to bail her out of her problems.. and it would have been state funded and the same outcome.Please don't insult everyones intelligence who chose to believe law enforcement..They don't know who the hell Kandee johnson, "The fake Hollywood make-up artist"NO one knows her and funny how she can never prove it either..Lets call it what it is.. A woman with no education that preys on girls with no friends and then has them feed her lies.. Again.. If u are a friend to that and are willing to back it up when you were not there yourself.. That makes me question your smarts and or integrity in how you do buisness.. Trust me when the truth comes out, I doubt you will ever do this again.. Exp when you can know someone for years and then they can surprise you, Which is why you can never "Really" Know someone.. All to make a couple of bucks... Sad really..

Anonymous said...

I have been a fan oc Kandee's for a while now and I've unfortunately come a cross ignorant people who don't know her, bashing her on the internet hiding behind stupid names and making accusations they have absolutely no right to make. It was wonderful to come across this post! One of the things my family taught me growing up is to "live in such a way that if anyone says something bad about you, no one believes it." I believe that Kandee is innocent because she has the opportunity to say whatever she wants on her blogs and videos and she doesn't. She keeps her private live private for the most part. If she were a fame whore as some people try to claim, we would all know all her business, but she's a classy lady and keeps to herself. Thank you for standing by her and for sticking up for her. She is blessed to have a friend like you.